Spoke to H and he thanked me for letting him take Son next weekend. The convo wasn't *quite* as light, airy and long as I'd hoped but it was pretty good. I am still proud of myself.
Next, I have been thinking about what, if anything, to do for H for father's day. I was thinking a simple hand written card telling him that I appreciate what a good Dad he is. The A aside, he is very committed to the kids. He has done everything he can to ensure the impact of the separation to them is as minimal as possible. And seeing how often one parent essentially abandons their kids when caught up in an A I realize I have a lot to be thankful for. Plus I believe H's LL is words of affirmation so I think/hope this would be a meaningful gift to him.
When I first found out about the A I accused H of abandoning the kids. I was terrified and at that point, genuinely feared he would bc OW lived 2 hours away, I had no idea what he had in mind. H was really angry that I said this. I, of course, felt entirely justified. But now I'm thinking differently, unless his personality had done a complete 180 (it has NOT) then he would never abandon his kids, it's just not who he is. I was thinking of including an apology for that accusation in my card to him since that is clearly not the case.
Thoughts or feedback on my father's day plan?
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
