That's hard to take. But if you were a third party in a stable place looking at your situation from the outside, you'd also think it's reasonable. What you are going through IS earth-shattering.
I am so sorry that this special time has been damaged so horribly. I really hope that some time in the not too distant future that it's just a blip in a happy life. Sending more hugs & prayers.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15