House & money worries have been on my mind lately. I wake up thinking about them and wondering how long we'll be able to stay in this house after the money is separated, worrying about how I'm going to help my kids adapt if we have to move, whether I'd be able to find an affordable place in their small school zone that isn't a fixer-upper, how to sell this house by myself, etc. all that always leads me to reflect on where I am now and how I got in this mess.
I was thinking about how when H was traveling when we were still together, how hard it was to maintain connection with him, how I always wanted him to know he was missed, that his place here was important, that he was loved & needed. When I woke up this morning I felt aggravated that he doesn't seem to care or miss me when he's gone. That all my effort to remind him that we kept his place open for him was never appreciated.
Now On this board I'm seeing lots of talk of co-dependency and how he should be my frosting & not my cake, and I'm wondering if I did somehow turn him into cake when I thought I was working hard on building our life together? But on the other hand, what kind of frosting is he when he travels frequently, mostly plays video games and watches tv when he's home, paying no attention to me, doesn't share what he's thinking or feeling because he says he doesn't know or isn't thinking or feeling anything, and has to be prodded to do anything fun with me or the family?
What is the balance point in a great relationship? How is it different from co-dependence?
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
