Cadet,
no, the OM wife, does not know. My wife and the OM put me in a situation where I am lying to a friend...OM wife, by not telling her. If I do, I know all (sensor) will break loose. On top of that, breaking friendship between my w and her will be devastating in my DB. My w and OM ( ex friend to me) both betrayed me. Sometimes, I just want to say (sensor) it all and get it all out so I don't have to be holding all this in. Like I said to Starsky, I got no freakin remorse or sinserity after I confronted. I confronted both of them at different times. I had to hold myself back from the things anger would make people do. Like getting in a physical fight with that mf...I mean OM. Can I say that? Anyways, even typing this is making me angry. He took advantage of my W. so mad..po! Need to go smoke a cig now to calm down...so stressed. Btw going on 5 mo of this and this roller coaster ride of emotions and stress is bad. Real bad. I lost 31 lbs in 2 mo. People ask if I'm sick. I say no, just dieting and excercising. So much to deal with, but as mentioned before, will start 180 tomorrow. Question for you and Starsky...do I slow down the pleasing or cold turkey 180 stop the pleasing? Thanks in advance.