Thank you Starsky for your well written guidance. After you pointed out that my pleasing is a cheeseless tunnel, I gave it some thought and bingo! You're absolutely right. Thank you for showing me this. And being co dependent is also right on as well. I know, I need to GAL. Just don't k ow how to start. Seems like everyday and everything I do I am constantly thinking of her. Lately, Im having issues in controlling anger. I find myself cursing to myself about W and how she treated me by having an A. And now how she is still treating me with no remorse, no guilt ( she says if she wasn't unhappy in our marriage this wouldn't if happen) like she's turning it around and making me feel it was my fault. Man, I tell you, I had no freakin idea she was that unhappy (Wherever we went we held hands, laughed, joked, hugged, and kiss), no sincerity of any kind, and mostly no intentions on working to build a new and stronger marriage. Can you please give me advice in GAL and not being co dependent? It's hard and I don't know where to start because before all this came about, W and I were co dependent ( did and shared much if the days together as one). How do I stop myself from this cheeseless tunnel of pleasing. I guess just stop and patiently watch. Hmm, this will be my first big 180. Going to start it tomorrow. Thanks again Starsky.
