Continuing my DB'ing journey...

[claire7]

I'm sorry that you are in this situation. That stinks. But congrats for continuing to carry yourself gracefully.

[T384]

I told everyone. They expect me to flip out. They expect me to have someone comment on their Facebook check in together, I have already deleted him.

However - THEY DONT DESERVE a response. They don't deserve me even typing about them. They don't deserve the tears I am crying over this. But they definitely don't deserve to know I feel this way about it. It will give them
Something to laugh or talk about.

Of course the boss' wife commented on it 'hope you guys have a great night

[T384]

Ok so I went from crying to laughing. This roller coaster

I asked my friends not to post. Well one of his friends posted. 'I didn't know you were babysitting now?'

He said I'm chaperoning

Then my aunt said I have no words for you H

Then H posted a pic from my fb a few weeks ago that was a picture of 2 drinks that said cheers to our night out and nobody was tagged. It was like 1 am my friend grabbed my phone and wanted to see if we'd get a rise out of him and then after I saw she did that I deleted him off of my Facebook

So he posted a screen shot of that post with the drink picture posting clearly she doesn't want me

To which my aunt said perceptions and realities are two different things your wife would never do that to you

[Maybell]

Good for you for doing the best you can. You will be ok. He doesn't deserve your tears but that doesn't mean you can't cry for your own disappointment and hurt, and your sons'.

Glad your aunt stood up for you. you have a good team cheering you on.

And enjoy your weekend. I'm glad you have so many things planned.

[claire7]

Do yourself and your kids a huge favor-- stay completely 100% out of this FB stuff... You can't control what your aunt does, but I would politely request that she stop, too.
Hang in there.

[T384]

I've asked everyone to not acknowledge them because they don't deserve a response.

I can't control what anyone does beyond that. I do feel a little I don't know what the word is but he clearly cares enough to take snap shots of my Facebook. I now know why he was asking me a few weekends ago if I would be home on a Saturday night with the kids or if I 'had plans' if this does nothing but shows me he cared enough to save the picture in his phone and nothing more I'm good with that. I'm sure the teenager is pitching a fit right now and he's busy replying on Facebook and not watching the movie.

Safe to say he's still been abducted by aliens!

LET GO

And the only thing my aunt did was to basically let him know I am not doing what he did and 2 wrongs don't make a right. so he would not assign blame to me as usual basically I was out with someone so he can do the same.

[pilot]

TO

Been following your story and I feel for you. Hang in there as you are clearly the much better person. As for FB, I actually blocked my WAW (not before unmarrying her) simply because I did not want to know what she was doing. I did not want to see about her life or anything. I am not a big FB person and she is really a heavy user. I do post pictures of my kids when we are out doing activities and her parents always like or comment. So I know she probably sees them. On the other hand, I see nothing and do not want to see anything she does. It makes detaching much much easier and keeps the mind from running wild with assumptions.

Best of luck to you!

[adinva]

H is desperate for anything he can use to justify himself. Your aunt trying to reason with him cements his "story" and your friend trying to get a rise out of him (!) fed the story he created in his mind that he's doing nothing wrong. You cant make him believe your truth, you can only detach. FB is like crazy glue for the LBS, gluing your thoughts and feelings to the minute airbrushed details he chooses to broadcast. And some friends and family like playing out drama. It is all unnecessarily hurting you, no good can come to you from anyone paying attention to his FB activity.

[T384]

I had nothing to do with the comments and what people said or didn't say. I actually asked my aunt not to say anything and my friend defending the picture he tried to use blaming me for him dating her was on her own accord. Her defense was he shouldn't be dating someone while married and then publicly blame it on me. What's done is done, I haven't mentioned anything to H or to anyone except when people messaged me about it asking them not to say anything to him or myself.

This was my response 'I know. I have already heard about it. This is why I deleted him off of my Facebook because it's too emotional and hurtful for me to see posts like this. I think it's better if nobody tells me about it. Also I really don't think you should say anything to the post of his about the two of them. They are looking for satisfaction and it's better to not feed into it. Like they say silence is golden he is a big boy making big boys decisions, and I need to not have any involvement so that if something happens I cannot be blamed, thanks for understanding I know you're just looking out for me.'

[claire7]

I had nothing to do with the comments and what people said or didn't say.

That's great. just keep on keepin' on!