Well I sent an initial text saying ... What time would you want to? We have to meet someone at 10 in X city. He said he wanted to take them to BMX and he wasn't sure what time but he thought it started at 11. I replied, 'okay well if it ends up being early in the morning to where we could meet up in X and I could get them by 10 let me know. He said well I don't even know if BMX is going to be open because of the rain (then WHY are you asking!!!??! Oh right because you thought I would say no and you were just trying to call my bluff). So I just replied okay thank you
So I'm a hysterical mess. H tagged himself with the teenager at the movies. I don't get why he has to continue to disrespect the boys and I. My friends ae urging me to send him a text that I don't appreciate him disrespecting our family publicly via Facebook regardless of what he is doing.
Tell your friends to ignore his antics bc their pressure on you is hurting you. What good would you text messaging him do? None. Is it a big surprise that he is at a movie? No. Deal with the big picture with grace and dignity and ask your friends not to hassle you about it. If they are good friends they will cut it out.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
In fact you should unfriend him on FB (quietly) or AT LEAST hide him so he doesn't turn up in your feed.
Here's a Harry Potter reference for you: Never tickle a sleeping dragon. Why would you start a fight about Facebook? It won't get you one thing that you want, will only provoke him to more spitefulness and make you look petty and controlling. You have enough problems with him.
If so many people think he's being disrespectful and pathetic then just let the show go on. It only hurts you if you let it.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
And while you're at it, it wouldn't hurt to let people know that you are aware of his behavior, working to move past it, and that you appreciate their support but you don't need to be reminded of the unpleasantness. Then you can vent about it here or with one or two very trusted, mature, helpful friends and let the rest of your life/GALing be clean of him.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
I won't text him. But it's so hurtful that he lies and tells me they aren't dating but then he goes and has I publicly rub it in my face. If he's going to do it why does he have to be so disrespectful
And yes this friend has just been educated to not tell me anything about him. And I will not be texting him. I don't need to give him and his teenager something to bond over
He's behaving like a jerk. Everyone can see it because he has put it on Facebook. Pity him for having no better sense.
And DETACH. You have a great weekend planned. You are a proactive, loving mother. You have a lot to feel good about. Stop giving him power over your emotions. He doesn't deserve it. Practice thought stopping. Give yourself a mantra for when you find yourself obsessing. Hug your kids, or do a push up/sit up challenge, or jumping jacks, or tell a dumb joke. But quit letting him under your skin.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
