See previous post. I'm starting to think you believe the choice will affect HIM...
b/c to a 7 y/o d, who'll never even see the petition, you are spending a lot of time on this.
I'm thinking you hope that if you change your name back, it'll show him that you are detaching, and that maybe he can't just get you back, later on. So maybe he'll slap his forehead and say "OMG what am I doing? She's NOT keeping my name!!"
From what I can tell, if he notices at all, AND OR if your d ever notices AND IF she cares AND IF she comments upon it in some negative way, he'd probably blame you for upsetting her.
Do you believe HE will even notice this?
I've been thinking about this since I saw your post. I thought that I was thinking the name-change decision through so thoroughly because I was trying to be sure that I was making a decision based on what I want and not based on what I thought H would think about it. My H isn't a very detail-oriented kind of guy, so he probably wouldn't notice it in the paperwork. Even if he did, I doubt he would care.
I did file the answer to the D petition on Wednesday. I misunderstood what my sister told me about the name change. She said I can put it in the answer, and then leave it out of the decree if I change my mind. So, I left it in the paperwork she had already drafted. My state requires that you give the other party a copy of the paperwork the day it is filed. I emailed it to him that night.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
What's going on in your life, today??
I've actually been sick, so other than going to work, not a whole lot the past few days. I'm feeling better now, so I should be able to turn that around
H called me yesterday to invite me to lunch, but I was in meetings all day. He has still been calling at least once a day, often for no discernible reason. I usually don't answer the phone and then call him back later. I'm still feeling very detached. There was a time, not very long ago at all, when I think I would have accepted my H back with no changes on his part. That isn't the case anymore. I don't want him back how he is right now. He would have to make some serious changes for me to consider that.
Today was D7's first therapy appointment. She seemed to "click" with the therapist. As I was making her next couple of appointments, D7 took a sticky note and a pen off her desk and wrote her a note. She was laughing and smiling as we left.
H, on the other hand, seemed to be in a terrible mood the whole time. Unlike prior times, however, his mood didn't affect mine at all. I didn't try to rescue him, or figure out what was bothering him, or try to make him feel better. Most importantly, I stayed in a great mood. Isn't that a sign of detachment?
