I'm Just About Ready For The Fork

[nero]

hey hi-

just saw your query- it's simple - anyone that is owed money- will pretty much try to squeeze it out of anyone or anything they can. when i got divorced a million years ago- after i'd given bank the court order, changed my accounts, etc -

they deducted money my EX- h owed , some fee or soemtinng - from my personal (new) account. merely because they knew from old records i'd been married to him and just 'TRIED IT ON". i went in yelling and screaming and they "fixed it" immediately- but point is- despite fact that it's ab solutely not legal- they tried it to see if it would work.

ANYONe pretty much will try anhything these days- even if they know for a fact it's not legal (like hospital trying to get $$ from my old mom even tho they know absolutely that she is not responsible for the debts of an adult child now deceased) i think thney figure- why not. perhaps we can guilt someone, some family member into having pity and coughing up some bread. TA DA - WE GET OUr MONEY.

IT'S probably nothin personal- but people looking for their $$ try anything. suze orman (when i'm awake rolling round at nite and watching public tv) - says student loans are the one thing in universe that never ever ever go away - not even with a bankruptcy.wow huh?.


it's stinky- don't let it bother ya.

hope your day is okay-

[tadpole1025]

Thanks everyone. It just ticks me off that they are calling My house phone. I'm calling them today and giving them HER address and HER phone number. She is obviously pretty in debt even though she told S23 that her loans were paid just a few weeks ago.

And it continues......

She is now blaming me for S21's Metallica tattoo.

He got it about 3 months after she left. He was 18 at the time. I guess I get the blame because I paid for it. It was his birthday present.

Whatever.

She's an idiot.

Still gearing up for my big interview....still a week away.

Tad

[job]

Tad,
Call the people up and give them her new address and telephone number. In fact, get their email address and follow up w/an email with the same info. You do not need to be involved in her debt or whatever else she has going on.

As for blaming you about the tattoo...let it go. She'll blame you if the sun comes up, goes down or orbiting the earth. She'll blame you when the goose doesn't lay the golden egg. Why? Because she's miserable and doesn't know why and thinks it is still you...let it go! She's a miserable individual and you are not the blame for her unhappiness.

Continue to move forward and how are you coming along preparing for your second interview? I am hoping that everything will go well and you'll get the position.

[MrBond]

"Sorry I asked."

Stop with the victim attitude. You say that those little things tick you off, but why? You haven't been able to deal with the resentment very well. LIke everyone said, you need to keep concentrating on you and not on her. For a start why don't you go ahead and post something positive every day on here? It could be something small like you went out for a walk or listened to music. Just something. Then slowly make those small actions into bigger ones. You still haven't gotten yourself strong yet.

You can do it. But for some reason you don't seem to believe that.

[tadpole1025]

Thanks Job and MrBond.

She'll blame you if the sun comes up, goes down or orbiting the earth. She'll blame you when the goose doesn't lay the golden egg. Why? Because she's miserable and doesn't know why and thinks it is still you...let it go! She's a miserable individual and you are not the blame for her unhappiness.

I have to remember this. I know it deep down, but I continue to let it boggle mind. She's miserable, but blames me for it? Even still? She got the new house and husband. I don't know why she would still be miserable. I just wonder what the Hell happened to the person I married. I can't grasp it sometimes.

Continue to move forward and how are you coming along preparing for your second interview? I am hoping that everything will go well and you'll get the position.

I'm pretty nervous and overwhelmed actually. I've been studying/preparing for it. It is such a big company and I REALLY NEED IT. NOT getting it is NOT an option. I have to. I do have my broadcast experience going for me, but man if I don't get it...

For a start why don't you go ahead and post something positive every day on here?

Well, it isn't much but S28 and I hung out by the pool last night here at the apartment. We had a couple of beers and had some good talk.

You can do it. But for some reason you don't seem to believe that.

You nailed it. Confidence has always been a problem of mine. Even after being rated #1 in my radio time slot over and over and being named one of the top 5 country disc jockeys in the COUNTRY, I still always wondered if I was good enough. Why? I don't know. The garbage with the XW made it worse I think. It can't all be blamed on her though because like I said, I've always had an issue with it. I guess it could be because I was never really encouraged much when I was growing up. Who knows...

Tad

[Wonka]

Tad,

Well, it isn't much but S28 and I hung out by the pool last night here at the apartment. We had a couple of beers and had some good talk.

^^^ Like!!! Keep going in that direction...positive stuff.

As for the job, you'd better start thinking and act as if you already have the job.

"I'm worthy of this job"
"I've got the proper qualifications for this job"
"I have a lot to offer to this company"
"I am valued and respected in my field"


Proper preparation prevents poor performance.

Practice with your sons so the questions do not throw you off when you're in the interview room.

You got this!

[MrBond]

"The garbage with the XW made it worse I think. It can't all be blamed on her though because like I said, I've always had an issue with it. "

You are right. Your XW didn't do it. You do it to yourself. You can just as easily choose to not be affected.

"Well, it isn't much but S28 and I hung out by the pool last night here at the apartment. We had a couple of beers and had some good talk."

What do you mean it's not much? This is great! Keep the positives in mind and keep posting them. Get to the point where you you don't mention the W at all unless you really need to.

[Grace_O]

Hey Tad,

You got this interview. You do. Believe.

(((HUGS)))

[tadpole1025]

Thanks Grace. I saw your post on your old thread, but haven't had time to respond.

I was going through some old posts and saw some things that you had written to me and wondered: "whatever happened to her...wonder how her sitch turned out."

Me? I guess you could say I'm stuck to an extent. Need to get this job so I can start rebuilding. It's hard to believe that it has been 3.5 years.....

I'm currently living with my four sons in a tiny two bedroom apartment.

I am divorced and have no contact with alien at all. She has even turned mean and hateful towards our boys, but it is what it is.

Emotionally, I'm doing a lot better, but not 100% yet. I still have anxiety and moments of disbelief at times, but it is better.

Financially, garbage. Hopefully that will change WHEN I get this job.

Tad

[tadpole1025]

Journaling:

I still have 5 days until my big interview. Been spending the last week preparing and learning about the company.

Man, do I hope......

The last three nights have been interesting. I've had some really bad dreams. I think it might just be anxiety about the job.

1. Dreamt that my ex-fil was still alive, but I watched him die, just like my mom. Weird thing was, XW wasn't in the dream.

2. Dreamt that XW was leaving all over again. Again, I was going through the pain again and crying and begging her to stay. I woke from this dream and actually felt relief when I realized that she was already gone and I survived. Weird.

3. Dreamt that my little brother was still alive but killed himself all over again. In the dream, I was the one that found his body and I was the one that had to tell my mom.

I just figure it is nerves and anxiety about the job interview. Just wanted to share....

Tad