I haven't read your entire thread yet, but your sitch sounds a lot like mine.
I'll be quick.
Please.
Please.
PLEASE do not end up like me.
Read my thread. URworthy, JOB, AJM, Eric, Mach, Wonka...all of them will tell you that I was (and probably am to an extent) stuck. Very stuck. Listen to these people and take their advice.
Let her go.
Sure, it is ok to want what was, but don't hope for it or expect it man. It's not going to happen anytime soon. Your wife is not the same. She has changed....REALLY changed. Not even close to the person that she was.
Mirage? He's just being realistic buddy. That is all. He's trying to help.
It [censored].
It hurts.
When I came to this board three and a half years ago, the three words that I hated the most were: LET HER GO. I still hate those words, but you have to do it.
As I said, read my story. It is very similar to yours. From what I understand, AJM's is similar as well.
Don't make the mistakes I did.
Please.
It's for you.
Tad
Currently: M 57 XW 58 Sons 39,34,32,30
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13