Well wasn't suggesting she comes to the board. I was trying to encourage you by telling how it helped me. And the way or source I reached for may be different with her.

By escaping my unhappiness, I turned to online chatting. But sometimes people leave the MR b/c they are trying to get out of the unhappiness they feel.

She may get really angry at your changes, at first. It's typical b/c you waited until she left. It takes time for her to work through this stuff.

I hope you will get involved in some type of activity (hobby, friends, gym, etc.) that will get you out of the house.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!