The counselor did say that she might be angry because she knows that we shouldnt be separated right now and doesnt want to feel guilty. He also said that she might be wanting a D even though she hasnt said that she did, but that she is too afraid to face the confrontation.
I'm surprised your IC would say these things to you. These don't seem to be helpful comments to what you need to do
Based upon my experience, Ben, you need to guide your IC to discuss you and not try to fix the M. My IC wanted to go there and I would have to lead the conversation back to me.
From your first post, there seem to be several topics you and IC could be working on:
1. Porn 2. Massive mood swings 3. Always been mean to her
Have these been discussed? You write a lot about missing her, dealing with it, etc. What are you doing about the above?
From what you've written Ben, I don't think you are dealing with the "typical" WAS here. I honestly believe she wants things to be better with you. You still have to do the work like everyone else on here, but you have someone who is actively looking for and wanting these changes. Most LBSs on here don't have that. Keep working. You can do this.
me: 45 W:45 M 20 years T 22 years S14, S13, S11, D9 BD 2/28/14 D papers served 3/3/14 I moved out 3/15/14 MC start 4/2/14 I moved in 6/2/14 D suit withdrawn 6/30/14
