Continuing my DB'ing journey...

[T384]

T, why do you think anyone here finds it easy? All I read on the forum is people struggling with it, doing well and then backsliding and trying again.

This is still new for you. You've had a lot of blows and crises over a short period of time. You're juggling the loss of your husband and personal insults and legal machinations all at once. Your poor 6yo... I feel for you all.

I'm glad you have a great weekend planned. Enjoy it. Use it as detachment practice.

Thank you Maybell. That means a lot. The hurt is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy

[Ben2010]

It is a physical and mental pain that no one could imagine without experiencing it. I think i would rather be stabbed. At least that pain would go away after a couple days or so.

[Maybell]

It's also an opportunity for personal growth... Make the pain into something constructive.

[T384]

It is a physical and mental pain that no one could imagine without experiencing it. I think i would rather be stabbed. At least that pain would go away after a couple days or so.

Depends on where you're stabbed ben2010 lol

But seriously I know what you mean. It's terrible.

[Ben2010]

Depends on where you're stabbed ben2010 lol

Well one way or another the pain will go away, whether it be from death or healing. lol

[T384]

Just got a text from H asking if he could have the boys in the morning before he leaves to go out of town with the teenager. I just emailed my lawyer for advice. I asked him 3 times over the last month if he wanted them Saturday and Sunday and he declined saying he was going out of town and Father's Day is just like any other day I really want to go to this concert.

So we do have plans. MIL is in town and we are leaving early to go to the waterpark. Why should our plans change because he has a few free hours in the AM. I feel like he is asking because he knows I will say no we have plans. He did this last weekend and I feel like legally he is trying to make me look like I'm withholding the boys from him. Ugh

[Ben2010]

Thats really a tough one there. Maybe you should start recording when you ask him if he wants them or not and what his answer is if you really feel that he is doing it for that reason. Either way it goes sounds like it might be a problem somehow.

[T384]

We only talk through text. He hasn't talked to me on the phone in over 2 months

[T384]

Any help on how to formulate a text to send to H?? My L said absolutely keep my plans he forfeited seeing the boys when he declined over and over. So I'm trying to figure out how to say this. I'm thinking of saying

Hey H, the boys and I are going to the water park tomorrow morning to meet your moms friends. We made these plans after you told us you would be away for the weekend. If you'd like to take them to breakfast in the morning they can do that we just have to be on our way by 930am'

[woundedfool]

How does everyone else seem to let go so easily?

Whhoaaaaa.... Easy? Easy? Do a search of the forums, Easy is a four letter word. It took a lot of prayer, miles, tears, heartache and work to be able to let go.


Now as far as a response about tomorrow for the H, if it was me I would respond:

"Thanks of thinking of them, but we already made plans with some friends who came in from out of town. If you wanted to stop by and get the cards they made for you this weekend, I know they would love it. Let me know when you might be able to do it and we can work something out. Thanks!"