It's not about material things it's about a good chunk of change I have tied up in boats vehicles etc that were pre marital that he is hiding and wants half of.
As said before, IANAL. But what does your attorney say:
about the assets themselves? that he is hiding them? are they indeed pre-marital?
Yes they are premarital. We are in the works to try and get them returned. He thinks because I purchased them while we were together (not married) with my own money that he is entitled to half. My L says he has no right or leg to stand on with them
Originally Posted By: T0324
Also holding firm on custody. He asked for sole custody and me to have visitation determined by the judge.
What does your attorney say? Seems unlikely he would get sole custody without a home (or at least apt).
He will not get sole custody. At best he will get 50% time shared.
Originally Posted By: T0324
I offered him to have the boys every other weekend
Leave those offers to your attorney to make.
This was when he asked me face to face the night he suckered me into an argument when I first joined DB
Originally Posted By: T0324
My lawyer feels (based on limited interaction with H lawyer) that he wants the kids to spite me and to not pay child support.
Does your attorney have any belief that he could get sole custody?
Personal note, while I fully feel you are a capable responsible person. At my core I am a believer in 50/50 custody unless heath, safety, ability to provide or distance is an issue.
While it stinks the weeks I do not have S8, that has become my "personal time" to stay in touch with "me" (and get all sorts of other stuff done).
It is not in the boys best interest to be with him 50% of the time. It is in their best interest to have time with their dad. His boss is an ex convict and he is living with him and a teenager. It is not an environment that I want my boys in. Even if he does get his own apartment the boys should not have to be shuffled back and forth one night on one off. I have a calendar of every visit text call etc. he has seen them 3x a week (about 3 hours a week) for the last 4 months. He has taken them ONE Saturday when I told him he had to. All other times he refuses or doesn't even ask. My attorney told me to stop offering him to take the boys on the weekend.
Originally Posted By: T0324
I meant should would you think he will notice or try to reach out? Or would that not happen since he is so involved in his relationship? My goal with my DB coach was that he would come around more often. Meaning he wouldn't only come to the house when I wasn't home.
He will notice....The relationship is a distraction of his own making, that is why you should not get involved. If you get involved, he can blame you when it ultimately falls apart (for whatever reason) do not try to force it, do not reach out. Stay your course.
I have not gotten involved at all. Since him acknowledging it I have not brought it up. He actually hasn't even tried to reach out to me since he told me about it. He has been completely dark with me minus a random are you at work text and basketball the other night. I think since he knows I know now he doesn't feel the need to go out of his way to talk to me.
I have no intention if reaching out. This weekend will be VERY hard for me. Knowing they are away. Together. alone. Father's Day. Ugh. Just [censored]
