Don't count on the MLC'er making it out. I wrote a lot in the past about that subject. It small pickings in the MLC Hall of Fame. Very few make it there.
I am, and dont hold me to it as I don't count anymore 4-5 yrs post bomb. I raised our kids mostly on my own after EXW left, but just last week my daughter was calling her mother as she was to pick her up at 7 pm on a Saturday from a friends house. Her mother did not answer several calls. My daughter called her Mom's boyfriend to find out why she isn't answering. The BF said your on your own your mothers too drunk to get you.
I still pick up the pieces 4-5 yrs later but the poor behavior continues and I am the rock in my daughters life. She knows that, but it was getting out of the way and moving on that changed that dynamic for me and I am thankful to the people here for pushing the DB handbook.
Again, a few and I emphasize a few can get past the fog of MLC. Many are still there years down the road.
Don't waste any more time waiting. Have a life of value, one that another person would love to join in.
