Continuing my DB'ing journey...

[woundedfool]

It's not about material things it's about a good chunk of change I have tied up in boats vehicles etc that were pre marital that he is hiding and wants half of.

As said before, IANAL. But what does your attorney say:

about the assets themselves?
that he is hiding them?
are they indeed pre-marital?

Also holding firm on custody. He asked for sole custody and me to have visitation determined by the judge.

What does your attorney say? Seems unlikely he would get sole custody without a home (or at least apt).

I offered him to have the boys every other weekend

Leave those offers to your attorney to make.

My lawyer feels (based on limited interaction with H lawyer) that he wants the kids to spite me and to not pay child support.

Does your attorney have any belief that he could get sole custody?

Personal note, while I fully feel you are a capable responsible person. At my core I am a believer in 50/50 custody unless heath, safety, ability to provide or distance is an issue.

While it stinks the weeks I do not have S8, that has become my "personal time" to stay in touch with "me" (and get all sorts of other stuff done).

I meant should would you think he will notice or try to reach out? Or would that not happen since he is so involved in his relationship? My goal with my DB coach was that he would come around more often. Meaning he wouldn't only come to the house when I wasn't home.

He will notice....The relationship is a distraction of his own making, that is why you should not get involved. If you get involved, he can blame you when it ultimately falls apart (for whatever reason) do not try to force it, do not reach out. Stay your course.