Here's the problem you have in not letting go. You want "him" to get a message. It's all about him. So that's why it doesn't work. Until you determine in your own will that you are completely finished and no more longing for a R with him.........NOTHING WILL WORK!
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But because I have never said NO... I need lessons/instructions/guidance... please be patient. I do intend on learning "NO"
You have said this and other similar statements about not knowing what it should look like. I have never seen as many people trying to paint a picture for a poster as I have seen here. I don't know how much is left for posters to give, but at some point....YOU have to start applying what is advised and stop whining about needing lessons, etc. You are repeating yourself......and so are we. Neither seem to be accomplishing anything. It is strictly up to you to do it or not. Enough with the worn out excuses. You are not a teenager!
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Sandi.. I am very angry/resentful, but am told not to "wear it/show it".... but it does fuel my FU attitude that protects me & my heart. So maybe I should have it? Dunno.
Yes, typically, that is the advice. But hey, if it will give you the spunk you need to walk away from him......I say go for it! But that's just me. I truly stick by what I told you the first time.........get out. It is not healthy to work around him every day, especially if you have that much resentment. And I really don't believe you will get better or happier as long as you work with him.
You want a committed R. Fine, get it from somebody else. This guy isn't going to do it. You are wasting precious years Magic. Find another man to love and build a life together. He is not the only man out there. Frankly, I don't understand what attracts you to him. He sounds so dull and boring and all he does is disrespect and play you.
I have read about women like you who can't let go. The degrading depths a woman will sink, thinking she is keeping him! Now that's what makes me mad at women! B/c men will lay down their lives for the right kind of woman. Women have been given a special mystic, if you will, that men will NEVER figure out. I'm just sorry you were never informed about it.
You have to have some dignity and self-confidence. At times you talk the talk, but people learn not to hear you when they don't see you walk the walk.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
