Georgia and mirage, Thanks for the kind words. I know they are trying to get me to see how I am feeding the dynamic and it does help. You think you aren't but when others point it out you stop and say "I see that!". It also helps to know I'm not alone and that others have seen the same. At times it feels like no one else out there could possibly had a S as crazy acting as mine!
I think the hardest part is that you know there is a chance that they can make it out and realize just what they left behind. You see ex-MLCers talk about how they finally did start to see where they messed up and it may not be as hopeless as it seems. But for them to get there you have to just totally give up, move on and let them do their own work. That I'm beginning to see may just be the hardest part! Especially when they are tearing down the world around you and causing so much pain to you and those you love.
