It's not about material things it's about a good chunk of change I have tied up in boats vehicles etc that were pre marital that he is hiding and wants half of.
That's what I am holding firm on. Also holding firm on custody. He asked for sole custody and me to have visitation determined by the judge. I offered him to have the boys every other weekend and he could see them the 3 week nights it am at work like he is currently doing but that they stay the night in their home. My oldest son cries to me that he doesn't want to go anywhere with his dad or live with him. He is pretty smart for his age and I hide as much as I can from him that I feel he doesn't need to know. My theory is the boys lives shouldn't have to be completely uprooted due to H's decisions
My lawyer feels (based on limited interaction with H lawyer) that he wants the kids to spite me and to not pay child support. She believes if we offer reduced child support from H and not to go after him because of being paid under the table he will let me have the boys. I'm hoping this is true. His actions have shown he really cares more about himself than the boys.
