Continuing my DB'ing journey...

[woundedfool]

It's just the wondering. I know I can't change it.

So... if you know you have no control... What does it help you to wonder (worry)?

I am holding firm on what I want regarding my premarital assets, custody etc. I feel this will make him resent me more

It might make him resent you, but as long as they are valid reasons, then it is on him.

However, I should mention... be careful about "holding firm", while I appreciate you might want to hold firm on the antique chair that is a family heirloom. Don't confuse that with the scented candle collection. Keep your eye on the big picture things.

Also by me being quiet what do you guys expect or think will happen? I know I should expect nothing.

I guess I don't understand this part of the question. What are you going to be quiet about?