Matt, I could have written that post. I don't recall if I did several years ago.
Know what I learned at the time knowing I gave her no reason not to trust me?
It's not a rational conversation, Matt.
Do you know that you cannot reason with an illogical or irrational person? If it was anyone other than your W, you would not walk away, Matt. You would RUN.
Know what, re-read Eric's post regarding the looney bin - that's you if you don't change your mindset quickly.
Help her pack her things and move on, Matt. Let her be the one to do the work, but don't resist. Don't try to reason. Don't be angry any longer than you can help it. Don't let her give you a heart attack over this. It wouldn't even phase her at this time in her life and she'd probably blame you.
You'll hear all kinds of stuff from her in the coming years, Matt. Don't listen and don't buy into it.
I know it's not easy to do that for you. I know your personality type won't like that. I know it's not what you planned.
But it's what is. And there is no reason to think it will change because you say the right words. There's no reason to think it will change because you tried to help. There's no reason to think you have any reason to feel obligated to help (that was a tough one for many of us here). There no reason that you should expect her to do anything other than what she is doing. Being mean, nasty, etc.
Know why? Me neither, Matt. But it is what is...
Your story is very familiar to me, Matt.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
