Was he waiting for me to make the next move? ......... I didn't. What does that say?
You are still trying to mind read, which tells me that you still have not detached. Does it matter why he did not make another move? IMO, is SHOULD NOT. Reason – when you love, respect and value yourself you would NOT have even wanted him to make a move on you and would have been happy that he didn’t.
The fact that IMO, you still WANTED HIM to make the move so that you could reciprocate and/or use that opportunity to TELL HIM something along the lines of “no I value myself”…means that you are still trying to change/control the sitch. Still trying to get him to “get it”.
MM – when you respect yourself….it will not matter what he does.
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To be prepared, "IF" he should "offer" patio date on the last minute on Saturday, I am trying to be ready for what I should say.
I understand why you asked this question. Do you know what it says to me though…..
YOU are still afraid.
YOU still feel the need to have to explain things to him.
MM – A simple – no thank you. SHOULD BE ENOUGH. Why add anything else. You do not OWE him a f*cking thing. YOU do OWE YOURSELF a lot. You do not need to justify, explain, rationalize…YOUR feelings to HIM.
Think about it…..
If your next thought after reading the above is…..
What if…..
He just may….
How will he feel….
Or if you try to JUSTIFY his ACTIONS and WORDS…
Then IMO
You are INVALIDATING YOUR NEEDS and once again…butting him first. Haven’t you don’t this enough already? Haven’t you waited nicely for 20 years…putting out sex…waiting for the HONOR to be BLESSED with his companionship.
I say ENOUGH ALREADY!
IF you value YOURSELF…then he should be honored to be in the same room with you. He should be lucky that you are willing to touch his pecker. He should be begging your arse to please have dinner with him.
IF he is not…well then, MM, accept that he is broken right now. Accept that he may never be able to give you what you DESERVE.
That’s right I used the word DESERVE! You DERSERVE better MM. YOU DERSERVE BETTER JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE YOU. YOU should not need his approval, my approval, Job’s, Starsky’s – NO FU*KING ONES except your own.
Focus on getting the legal paperwork done and completed so that YOUR future is set.
He want’s sex….hand him a jar of Vaseline and roll of paper towels and tell him to call the other women that he finds “attractive”.
Stop settling!
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
