Forgiven lazy husband - reconcilliation possible?

[25yearsmlc]

So should i be worried that because my kids have taken this pretty well that my WAW will think D is a good idea then?

Think about this^^ question. It implies that the kids being miserable & traumatized might somehow be good for, or benefit...whom? YOU??

But I doubt that. I think you'd be more miserable b/c you'd see your kids in pain.

Outside of abusive situations, NO KID WANTS THEIR PARENTS TO DIVORCE.

Period. Your kids will say things to her that they do not say to you. And visa versa. They are on their best behavior right now but that may well change. (Get ready for that).

But your w will know that they are not happy about it, in time. I can't say when.

Meanwhile, contrast the negative images your w has of you (which she used to justify leaving)

with the NEW YOU.

So if/when she says "h was not pulling his weight and we had financial stresses..."

& IF you are now working f/t and making decent money...what's she going to say then??

If she sees you are in good physical shape, it makes the "lazy bum h" arguments that much weaker.

CONTRAST her negatives (& the ones you also have of your old self) with the New Positives you are creating.

Few women and almost no mother, is going to refuse to review her choice to leave, if the choice's basis is undermined by a new reality.

Make sense? So go make that new reality. For YOU, and whoever else benefits...