You said you took vows, and you take them seriously, and I respect that. But you also have an unspoken "vow" to protect your children, and to uphold holiness in your marriage and in your home. At some point (and none of us can tell you what that point is, that's something only you can decide) you're going to have to decide what is the "greater good" here. Your children are already beginning to suffer.
Starsky
agreed.
Your sons are watching you. They will face betrayal or a huge setback in life someday, of their own.
You are modeling for them, what a man of strength and honor does, in the face of that.
True, you don't have a lot of property to worry about. But you COULD in theory, someday date OW who treats you a lot better. Otherwise you might be showing them that a woman can lie and cheat, in a serial manner, and you'll still be there. So there is a cost to staying... a cost to standing.
I know what you said about vows. I get it....I really truly do.
But there is a line somewhere, beyond which YOU cannot be crossed. Figure out where yours is, (and no, we are not going to tell you where that is, b/c it's so personal a decision that really you are the only one who can make it)
and we'll be here to support you. But do find a boundary somewhere internally. So you will know where it is and when it has been crossed (maybe already it's been crossed) and know what you'll do.
Also, 15% of marriages that divorce, end up reconciling after a divorce.
Maybe she needs to really see that the grass is greenest where it gets the most water.
And maybe you do too. Hang in there and keep on keeping on
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
