I'm going through similar dilemma. I believe recognizing their dad on fathers day is as much for the boys as anyone. Its barely about you the mom at all. You should teach your kids to do something kind because that is who they are. My s is so mad at his dad right now he will probably not participate, and i guess i wont push it.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.