Not only is this your duty as a father but it will give you a much needed self esteem boost to take charge of this situation. Not talking down to you man, I've done similar to yourself!
Have a sit down with the son and talk. His grades are important and he doesn't need the hassle of resitting exams later in life because of his Ma's behaviour. Sounds like he needs some reassurance. I would take a copy of these grades and show your wife that her behaviour isn't just affecting you. This is not to make her feel guilty. Really? What do you expect to achieve with that? There is NO way she won't resent her h for showing her b/c it'll be received as a manipulation, and or attempt to shame, which it looks like.
It's not "just providing information another parent needs", it's "showing HER"...and that is all about control. Think about the goal you stated Redhawk,
One last chance, you can let your son discuss it with her if that's typical for them. Don't wait around to see ANY reaction from her or it'll sure look like a tactic of yours.
This is to make her realise that her actions affect others beyond you.
I realy resent this "put yourself first" culture we have become. Sometimes, we DO have to think of how our actions affect others. Children especially.
This is an opportunity to reclaim some of your masculine appearance. Women today are seeing us as weak and disposable. Because we let them overstep boundaries all the time
^^^ Sheer projection on your part, Redhawk. Your wife was not elected "Group leader" for all women...just speak for your own situation without globalizing it.
Sorry if that sounds too harsh but it's not the type of comment women see and don't react to. (And with all due respect b/c I know you are in pain, but saying a thing like that is just not something a secure man says, which is also not "our" collective fault).
You say you made choices you want to own. Well, own them. Stop the blame game, esp when you enlarge it with sweeping generalizations that do NOT apply everywhere. I mean, what does one DO with that statement? Resent all women? Fear us? Worry about how "we ALL" view you?
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