I am going with friendly and detached. It makes things much more pleasant. When he is rude and mean I will still be pleasant and detached.

I have an appt with a L in a few weeks. I told her I didn't want to do anything just get some information. I think I have been lying to myself and everone. I keep saying I am letting things stay as they are for s. It really is for me too. I don't want a D. I am not ready to give up on my h. I may very well end up D. He may never cone out the other end of this crisis. He may never be ready to deal with his alcohol addiction. OW thinks she is fixing him. That isn't possible. He needs to fix himself. But someone needs to believe in him. Even if he doesn't know I do or doesn't care.

Does that make any sense?

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15