If it was me, I would have the kids do the cards, make sure they know to give them to him the next time he stops by.
I don't know if that is the right or wrong answer, it's just what I would do.
I agree. Everyone IRL disagrees but my point and I only have to justify to myself is this
I am NOT doing this to pursue him or try to win him back, I am NOT doing it for him, I feel bad making my son make a card but such is life. Even though he is not being a father he is still their dad, even though he did not have them acknowledge me does not mean I have to stoop to his level. I need to be the person only a fool would leave. So in a sense I am doing it for myself and my boys. It doesn't have to be right to anyone else but me. I see it as I can let go that he didn't acknowledge me, I can have them making a card KNOWING he chose not to be with them and to be with his gf. To me that is a 180 because a couple months ago I couldn't have done it.
