Lol Bond's story is ridiculously long. I read it one time and he has more patience than I could dream of having. Its a good transformation you get to see from him, beginning to where he is now.
M:33 W:30 T:10 M:2 B/D: 5/27/14 S: 5/28/14 Wife moved back in 7/18/14
I'm right there with you Thornton, however I cracked and texted my STBXH an apology about an hour ago for making him feel pressured and for putting expectations on him as per his last text to me last night. Still no reply so I just need to leave it. I still can't believe how much I didn't do the DB...argh! I could kick myself! I'm glad to have this place to vent
Last edited by CSan00; 06/12/1409:56 PM.
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
You're way overthinking this brosef. I know why, I did the same thing. Listen to everyone that has told you to go LRT and get your own life and keep living. She will be in touch again.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Yup, we all fall into the same trap. We want to do something.
And we all think that our case is special, and there must be something we can do, even though everyone is telling us that we can't.
Well, here's the thing. YOU CAN'T FIX HER. The absolute best thing you can do is to figure out how you will get along without her.
And not because we think you are doomed, but because getting that feeling of independence, and the confidence that that exudes really is your best shot.
The sooner she sees that your life doesn't depend on her, the better off you are. With or without her, you have to fast track to that happy place.
As for the text, let it go. She may be testing to see if you're still there. Don't be over anxious to ease her fears of losing plan B.
