Line in the sand

[mustardseed]

He is definitely drinking again. Do I acknowledge it? He isn't hiding it, is actually telling me that he is doing it. When he first decided to stop drinking and had gone months without it he seemed mad that I didn't comment. I don't know if he wants me to say something about it. I never thought he was an alcoholic but that his drinking had gotten out of control. He said that he knew he would drink again but he couldn't go back to the same daily habit he had before. I agree. I don't know what to do about this. Sometimes I think he is crying out for me to talk about it, but I don't think it is my place to judge him on this and how can I be detached and bring it up at the same time? Our biggest issues are firmly based in the fact that we don't talk about the tough matters (like money, alcohol, really anything even slightly uncomfortable). I finally got the courage to talk about money, and that seems to have led to him drinking again.

I really just don't know which way is up anymore. He is making no move to get the ball rolling in either direction--either separation or reconciliation. And the limbo feels like torture. We are very pleasant around each other since the money talk, but he is always more pleasant this time of year because his work responsibilities decrease significantly. I'm going away for the weekend. I need some distance.