Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 2

[Barrybran]

If she says "I want to divorce" and you agree with her, what do you think will happen? You aren't always going to agree with what she says. Telling her you agree when you don't is doormat behaviour. Instead, listen to what she says and validate the feeling: "Why do you want to divorce?" if you need more information or "I'm sorry you feel that way" if you've heard it before. You are at the beginning of your journey of being your own man. It is important to know your own answers to the important questions and act consistent with those. Do I want to divorce? Do I want to move out? When she speaks, you listen, validate, think about what she has said for a while and make your own decision based on what is best for you moving forward.

In regards to space, do you have a spare living area or bedroom? If so, can you comfortably spend more time there and out of your wife's sight? If not, go for for a walk or find something else to do outside the house. You can create space without moving out. It will take some discipline though, much like those text messages.

Your interactions sound positive today. Hopefully you can start to see little signs that this stuff sound crazy but it works. You leave her alone and she'll come to you.