What is my Next Move?

[Oxford1]

So what are you doing to protect your finances, Oxford? You never really did say.

When my wife had her affair, I immediately had my paycheck deposited into a new account that I opened, that only I had access to. I let her know after I had done that, and that I would be transferring "$X" into our joint checking account to cover the family's monthly NEEDS, as well as a reasonable amount of the kids' wants. I also let her know that I had decided that I was NOT willing to help finance her affair, and so her hair coloring, VS undies, make-up, tummy-tuck monthly pmts. on her Visa card, and her cell phone bill -- were HER responsibility. I continued to pay for her basic needs (health insurance, gas, basic toiletries, BASIC clothing allowance etc).

I couldn't stop her from having an affair, but nowhere was it written that I had to financed the damned thing.

Starsky

I am with you. I have been very careful that she only uses her own money. Only thing is she bought these outfits at BeBe that she looked amazing in...next thing I know she packed them all for her trip....boy was I an idiot!

The worst is that I swear she took a bonus check of hers to pay for this trip...it was supposed to be to pay off her debt!

In terms of the family trust it would take an act of a bipartisan congress for her or him to get a penny or should I say Shekel .