For Making Magic....

[TL72*]

MM

. Personally, I would invest in batteries - they probably last longer and you do not have to sell your soul to "get off".

You ask how can I leave him.

The answer is simple - Tell him to Go F*ck off. Tell him that you will not be his personal f-buddy. And even if he has a pecker the size of king kong and can use it better than any porn star....I still say .....Hey XBF - Go F yourself.



Respect yourself

Get your share of the business

Then Go live your life.

LOVE THIS! Personally I have a rechargeable, go for quality.
sometimes batteries run out at inopportune moments.
and yes,tell him go F yourself! easy as that. seriously try it just once and you'll feel so much better. If someone isn't in to you... then they're not into you... don't waste any more time. just my 2 cents

[makingmagic]

Dear Team ~~~

YES... believe me I am *there*...... I am dropping the rope & not going to accept this from him. Its really degrading actually.

I RESPECT MYSELF.

F Him!

[Matt165]

That's the spirit!! You go girl!!!

[RosaLinda]

I sure wish the forum would add a "like" button LOL Glad to hear it honey, but......I'll believe it when I see it. I'll be waiting patiently for your updates.

[Starsky309]

I sure wish the forum would add a "like" button LOL Glad to hear it honey, but......I'll believe it when I see it. I'll be waiting patiently for your updates.

x 2.


Starsky

[makingmagic]

yep... I understand.

In his defence he did get annoyed when I labelled it f-buddy, as he said he does want more. He even said that he knows that the person who is "asking" for time & follows through has the intent.

However, I have gotta see ACTION on this....

Matt... thank you for your story. I cannot settle either.... its just wrong. Thank you for:

"MM, you have value as more than an object. He will never want you again until he really thinks he can't have you!" <<<<<<< I need to believe this to be true!

"Make up your mind to really, really drop the rope until he knows he will lose you unless he makes changes. Until he feels that he CAN lose you, he will never value you! Stupid, yes. Counter intuitive? Yes. But oh so very true!" <<<< mind made up.

I will be working with him in an hour or so... do I say anything, or just keep my mouth shut & let him wonder??

[Matt165]

I say be mysterious. Just be happy and upbeat but if he tries to initiate anything like hugging, kissing, sex, even just closeness DON'T DO IT! Just push him away. Only speak if you must and keep it simple. No telling him you want more or going through the whole thing again.

[makingmagic]

Tx Matt.

Curious to what I am walking into today... what will his expectations of me be? What message did I sent out yesterday? I can't gage what really happened. I know that anyones opinion, would be just that. Mind reading. But, would love to hear thoughts anyway.

I like your approach to say nothing, and to not fall into his closeness trap.

[KenF]

the message you sent is that your words mean very little. and that a little effort on his part and you'll give in to what he wants.



"He mentioned that its important to have relationships with other men."

"I do not recall being told to have relationships with other men...???"

Those are your words. first post of thread 29.

you may choose to have forgotten them, but that does not make me wrong.

[makingmagic]

OHHHH .. I see it now... that was interpreted wrong. We were discussing how it is important for HIM to have relationships with other men... he did not do that much during out R. It had NOTHING to do with me.

I agree with "my words mean very little and with little effort, he gets what he wants"!!