Hi all - "was never in love"

[Mat]

Hi -

I had to read back what I said. I guess I'm just frustrated to be paying. She can afford the rates from her salary - but that's it. That and some food. So that would require some support from me if it was made into a permanent solution.

So I'd say it's not sustainable longer term, but for a month it's not crazy since there's nowhere else she can go. We've agreed that we'd come up with a more permanent solution. So next step will be to work out her budget, and what kind of appartment she can afford. If she's decided that she absolutely wants to separate, she should be able to support herself. Other people with the same job in the same city do it.

The EA is a bit of a worry for sure. But I don't know what else to do; I can't keep her by force. Mortgage is in my sole name; so are the bills. She can walk out anyway, and she has been very clear that she needs the space. There's no family (we're expats) or friends that can take her in for now. But she'll need to figure something out soon.

That said I welcome suggestions and appreciate them. I don't want to come out argumentative or defensive, but talking these through does help surface my reasons and it's very helpful to me.