Don't sweat it TL, I get the same way. When I told my stbxW that the people at the phone store couldn't do what she wanted she got so very angry AT ME! When the cost for having my D18 and me on the same plan was more than she had been told she got angry at ME saying that I MUST have gotten it wrong and I found myself getting upset and starting to want to defend myself and stop her from being angry at me! Why do we do that? I've been trying so hard to please her for so long I guess it's just habit!