"The third time's lucky. "

[TL72*]

Thanks cczamo wow your stbx chose your cousin for an attorney? eek.

My exh left a cryptic voicemail a couple hours ago, it was very angry sounding and it said "do what you gotta do so I can sign the house over to you" and then hung up. It instantly riled me up in my stomach, he still has that affect on me for some reason, I guess old habits die hard, I just remember the anger very well. I was thinking to myself "wth" trying to figure out why he's angry or whatever, just a habit. I was not going to call him back so I emailed him and said "I submitted the refi application last night, it takes 30 days. I have a year to do it, is there a problem?" mostly i didn't like his tone with me, it's on me though taking it that way. I wanted to respond and not react. He responded to my email with "I have to leave". and that's it. To me that makes me think that something happened to anger him and that he has to "leave" makes me think he may have lost his job. That was the only thing keeping him here. I responded with "ok" and that was that. I don't think I need him to sign anything on the refi anyway, it's in the papers and the loan will be just in my name but i'll find out shortly. Not my problem anymore. He makes his own choices and has to deal with them on his own - I found it funny how I automatically thought that I did something wrong to anger him. That's the old co-dependent people pleaser in me. I'm acknowledging it, self correcting, moving on.