Here's my update for today: no contact from H yesterday, I talked to D11 by text and phone many times, but didn't hear from H. D11 had asked me when we were leaving for vacation (could have been today or tomorrow, since we drive we often leave it as a last-minute decision). She said H wanted to know. I told her we hadn't decided, that I'd talk to H when he called me. Remember, the kids don't know anything, and I'm not going to let them turn into the go-betweens. So I got a text from H bright and early today, asking when we were leaving and saying that D11 seemed to be having a good time. I gave a brief reply and I'm prepared not to hear from him again for another couple of days. I don't think it makes any difference to H, seems he'd prefer not to have to interact with me, but I think I'm happy with the way I handled it.
