OMG - i'm reading here and seeing the last two exchanges of you both-
my h told me when i first met him - about his parent's divorce being the worst thing ever in his life- his decision then not ever to get married - " it didn't mean anthing and was no guarantee" and is , in fact, still lving out that stilted decision as a 12 yur old. it's insane - but llook at your h and him?
i wonder alot lately if it could possibly be as "simple" as damage done sooo far back- eemmotional inability to "grow up" and thr it- and if this stupid mlc junk could truly be aftermath of that sort of "stuff".
what do you guys think- could it be possible. he couldn't fathom or forgive (still hates his mom- tried for a handful of years to "reconcile" - ended up thinking she's selfish and rotten jeprson - hasn't spoken to her in 8 years or so. *(tho, part of me sees that as a "game" he is playing with her - making her "pay" kind of thing.
idk- it struck me as weird. He never saw it coming- the shock of his happy little home disappearing over nite- she want off with handsome, rich new bf and his baby brother- he got left with nazi, catholic, blaming, condeming dad who could not be pleased by anything- if he got an A, dad said he should have gotten an A+
could this really stilllllll be about that? i'm weary- today he's perfectly nice, planning this trip- it makes me want to cry when it's "pleasant' cause i think of all the wsted time and years and my heart - all the pain & despair and unhappiness for years. what a waste. that's all- what a waste (of my time & happiness)
oh well- just a tho0ught &* observation. oh man
what was "done to them??? and what they've "done" to us??? how does it all reconcile?
xxoo hope you bo th have a great day
ps- oh yeah, i thought he was an exceptionally kind, reasonable man too - he sure seemed like one- this "crazy" just appeard and i think/thought he's doing to me exactly what she did to them. who even saw it coming.??
where is the justice? none to be had really- life sure is nuts
