yes, it sounds like your anxiety (why be so? the world will go on if something is done differently...) and controlling are good things to focus on. It also sounds like yoga or meditation would be good for you - learn to let go -
EE is an experiential program that shows you yourself and lets you share your real self with supportive others. It opens people and helps them bloom. The website has more details.
Yes, too much reassurance seeking or 'confirm you have received and understood my transmission, please repeat it to me' could be a liability...
