Wow.... All I can say is wow. I have read your story from start to finish. I thought my life and M was in a bad spot. You are truly a good guy with a big heart. You are the definition of a guy who believes in marriage. I hate what you are going through, but I admire you for where you are mentally and emotionally given your circumstances. Keep doing what your heart tells you man. Personally, I would have hit my breaking point (or so I say without having walked in your shoes) a while ago and walked. Your W is definitely manipulating you, which I am sure you see. Your heart wants what we all want, which is our family back. I hope your prayers lead you to a solution which gives you joy in your future.
Best of luck to you...I will be following your story.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16