Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 2

[Barrybran]

1Wish, as others have mentioned, you need to be able to control yourself. It sounds like the chat you had with her was positive so you know it CAN be done. What can you do when you feel like you're going to say or do something unproductive/controlling/pursuing/needy/etc? Can you go for a walk? Play pool? Listen to music? When you have a bad day at work, how do you calm yourself down?

You need to have awareness of what you say and do, an understanding of what will be harmful to your relationship prospects, and the strength to say to yourself "ok, I'm losing control, I need to exclude myself from this conversation and go away to think about it for a while."