Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 2

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1Wish,

I am very new to this forum and new to my M falling apart. However, the best thing I have done for myself in terms of understanding what is going on in my situation and gaining a better insight as to where my own shortcomings are is by reading other people's stories. I am almost addicted to these stories now. I pick a person, and I find their original post, and I read. Sometimes these stories fill up a thread, get locked, and start with a new one. Some are on part 5. But I have read the entire story of dozens of people here. What it has done for me is 1) Realize I am not alone 2) Others who are in my shoes have already made the mistakes I have been making, so I am not alone. 3) And most importantly, recognize that the stories people are sharing with you are a tremendous gift. They are giving you a crystal ball with the closest thing you will ever get to a glimpse of your possible futures. Seize that gift and make it count for everything it is worth. No one story will match yours. But many will be similar. The patterns of behavior of the WAS and the LBT will be similar. Learn from what others are doing right and what they have done wrong. Dont make the mistakes they have made and try and emulate what they did correctly.

Like probably every LBS on here, I was petrified at the idea of losing my W and every attempt I knew of to keep her ended in disaster. Only after learning about DBing and reading these stories here did I finally see a light at the end of the tunnel...even if dim. And you know what? An erie calm swept over me. I was no longer in panic mode. I saw a path...a difficult one, but a path. I had something to focus on even if in baby steps. Listen to these guys here. I do not know any of them, but I know they are here to help anyone who needs it, and most have already walked in our shoes and are kind enough to make sure the footprints they leave behind are deep enough for the rest of us newcomers to follow.

Best of luck to you!