This is your wife's 2nd affair, and by your own account here she is unremorseful. Can you tell us more about why you want to work to save your marriage?
What boundaries, if any, were put in place after her first affair?
Good for you for not being willing to act as if everything is normal and do the camping trip, and ESPECIALLY for having the wisdom to firewall your finances so quickly. Most that land here aren't near as decisive.
I hate to be a wet blanket, but since you mentioned the "relations" thing . . . if those times with your wife were unprotected, I'd urge you to get a full-panel STD test. I know it s*kks, and I had to do it myself 7 years ago, but I'm not telling you anything that your own doctor wouldn't tell you. Research shows that couples in affairs have unprotected sex at rates significantly higher than the general population.
Sorry you're here, but . . . glad you're here. Maybe we can help.
