Forgiven lazy husband - reconcilliation possible?

[Maybell]

My kids took it well at first too. Then H left on a series of business trips and it's been sinking in on them ever since. He's astounded they care, or are reacting to it -- what little he knows, since he can't SEE it for himself and only hears about it when I think of an action he can take to help them.

Oh, and his mother told him they would be happier when they saw him happier. Never mind that she's still married to his dad.

I've come to realize I don't want my H to stick around for the kids. I want him to be here because I'm so awesome. That should be what you want for your kids, too. If your wife sticks around (or doesn't) because of how the kids see things, then they aren't seeing the kind of relationship you want for their futures.

(Sorry if my tone is a little belligerent... It's that kind of day...)