hope456 - he filed, what now?

[25yearsmlc]

I talked to my sister and she says I can leave the name change request out of my answer to the D petition and then add it in to the decree before everything is finalized. I guess that gives me another 6 weeks or so to make a decision.

See previous post. I'm starting to think you believe the choice will affect HIM...

b/c to a 7 y/o d, who'll never even see the petition, you are spending a lot of time on this.

I'm thinking you hope that if you change your name back, it'll show him that you are detaching, and that maybe he can't just get you back, later on. So maybe he'll slap his forehead and say "OMG what am I doing? She's NOT keeping my name!!"

From what I can tell, if he notices at all, AND OR if your d ever notices AND IF she cares AND IF she comments upon it in some negative way, he'd probably blame you for upsetting her.

Do you believe HE will even notice this? I am not so sure. Not to mention all the variables that have to play out for this to even matter.

Also, there's just as much argument for him wanting you to change your name in the event of OW wanting to be married to him. Nothing seems to irk new wives than sharing a last name with ex spouses...so if you want to spend your time mind reading, you can add that to the cauldron.

But I think this is a non issue. Name changes are NOT hard to do at any time. This is not an irreversible decision.

What's going on in your life, today??