Geesh, does it ever end. I'm sorry about the cop situation, but I'm sure the cop shook his head afterward and laughed about it.
Yes, your h hasn't got a clue and boy, he's in for a rude awakening in the future.
I'm glad you and the boys are doing well. I'm so sorry that you and the boys are still dealing w/this crazy stuff. Hopefully, at some point, things will settle down.
Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.