You've got to find a way to quiet down the impatient voice in your head. It is all impatience.
I can't imagine H will want to stay at his Dad's/Stepmom's forever so either he'll ask to move back home (and I'll put my conditions out there, i.e., full transparency plan) or he'll start making plans for an apartment which will be a pretty clear sign that things are headed toward D.
Pure speculation and stinkin' thinkin'. Stop it. Where's your rubber band?!
And really, in the grand scheme of things what's another 2-3 months?
You're tripping up with this illusive deadline. Wow. Why 2 months or 3 months? Remove the so-called deadline. Then you'll be truly free and I suspect it will relieve you of the internal impatience & anxiety. It is all on you. See how this self-imposed "deadline" of yours is tripping you up mentally and emotionally?
Your last post, re: goal setting, is much easier for me, really resonates. All of this above? Notsomuch. Totally out of character and very hard for me to wrap my brain around. I’m a planner, I’m a doer, I’m a driver and some may say a controller. What you have outlined is the complete opposite. I read it and think “Yikes, it’s like trying to tackle Mount Everest or something.” No can do. (I know I need to change this attitude)
Last edited by mdu; 06/11/1407:21 PM.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
