Originally Posted By: Wonka
MDU,

Let me address your response to the goals component.

I'm willing to work with you if you're willing to sweat over this. smile Let's take this one as a starting point:

So if one of my goals is to physically re-attract H then obviously being angry, hostile, cold is not going to help me with that goal.


Goal breakdown:
-Dress up (new dress or new shoes or different lipstick..hair a bit different style...new perfume)
-Be calm and serene around H
-Act lighthearted around H (act like a new GF with him)
-Give resentment the stiff-arm and say "no, stay put!"
-Be in the moment with H during each and every interaction




Love, love, love these Wonka! I'm a very tactical person by natural. This really helps me! Thanks so much for your time and thoughts!!!

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14