MDU,

Let me address your response to the goals component.

I'm willing to work with you if you're willing to sweat over this. smile Let's take this one as a starting point:

So if one of my goals is to physically re-attract H then obviously being angry, hostile, cold is not going to help me with that goal.


Goal breakdown:
-Dress up (new dress or new shoes or different lipstick..hair a bit different style...new perfume)
-Be calm and serene around H
-Act lighthearted around H (act like a new GF with him)
-Give resentment the stiff-arm and say "no, stay put!"
-Be in the moment with H during each and every interaction