Continuing my DB'ing journey...

[woundedfool]

The possessions are 2 vehicles in my name only that he has hidden and will not return.

First, IANAL.

Second, your attorney (or his) may have prepared a temporary restraining order (not a protective order), that would prevent ANY of the parties from transferring assets, if not discuss with her about doing this. Most courts take it very seriously if one of the parties starts having a "fire sale" on any assets to turn them into cash. Since they are in your name only, he cannot sell them or transfer the title. If he does, expect the court to take him to the woodshed on that one. Further, if he vandalizes them... courts frown on that as well. Finally (on a side note), with him so "close" to his bosses family, there will be a point where his pay will be looked at.... courts don't like sudden decreases in income once one party files for divorce (they call it underemployment) and they do know/see that this is to reduce the "look" of their true financial position. Having the "close" relationship with the boss reeks of paying under the table, withholding money owed until after a divorce.... and courts really, really hate that.

Third, Do you actually require the use of the vehicle? If so, let your attorney know you need it. If not, just think of it as a chip you can cash in later during your settlement.

How do I DB these kind of situations

DETACH! Remember, the court system will not be quick. So turn to patience. Hearings/conferences/meetings will be scheduled, rescheduled, moved, postponed, taken under advisement.... so accept you have ABSOLUTELY ZERO control over the flow of this. To take something from your Nursing career, be clinical about it: You see a patient naked... you do not get aroused, you understand (because you spent several years interning/externing/nursing school to learn how to focus on the medical/natural) that there is a wall between your profession and a physical/emotional attachment to the patients personal life.

Act "as if", this should not bother you. Again, this may be elementary, but: Just own the fact: "yep, I am getting divorced... so be it".

Yes living it up is what my H is doing - taking this teenager away for her birthday this weekend, going out on the boat with her and her family, going out all the time, all of which he thinks he is hiding from me.

Sounds fun, maybe a bar? (oops, nope) Dave and Busters (nope, not after 9:00pm) oh wait Seminole Casino? (oops, no to that too) daddy daughter day at Disney? (nope too creepy). Oh I know, freshman orientation at FAU!